PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
There are many of you who are searching for love.
Marriage is a calling; a holy covenant between God, your spouse, and yourself. Many times we become so focused on finding the right person that we forget that in the meantime our job is to BECOME the right person. You wouldn’t walk into your final year exams without studying. Likewise, you don’t walk into marriage blindfolded, In order for your marriage to be all that God designed it to be, make the decision to start preparing yourself NOW.
Marriage takes work! I am talking about 24/7/365 work! The great thing about the marital covenant is that when you give it your all, you can live “happily ever after” Ask God to help you become the wife you are called to be, even if you are not already in that position.
To us, waiting may seem like wasting. But to God, waiting is preparation. He has a big work to do in both your heart and the heart of your future spouse before He calls you both together. With that being said, there are many  ways you can prepare for marriage, but these are few.
Define your relationship. In defining your relationship the first thing is to take things slow, let things progress naturally before you decide to define your relationship, if you do things quickly you might freak him out. Figure out exactly what you want with him, do you want a serious relationship or not, what exactly are you looking out for.
 Develop an intimate relationship with God. You cannot enter into a successful covenant with a husband if you don’t first have one with God. Seek biblical wisdom, study the word, develop a life of prayer, pray for your partner and be dedicated to living for God. This will strengthen the marriage covenant when God allows you to walk into that season. (Ecclesiastes 4:12)
 Develop the ability to take care of a home. Ladies, in order to be a great partner in marriage, we must bring the ability to emotionally and physically take care of the house. Learn to set a atmosphere of peace and love, avoid quarrels when possible, practice gentleness with others that cross your path.
 Learn how to cook! A woman that cannot cook is not cute! We know that men like to eat; we all need to eat to live. Eating out all of the time can become expensive and who doesn’t love a home-cooked meal from time to time. If you cannot do anything beyond boil water or prepare indomie, invest in a cookbook. Try one new meal a week and you will quickly improve your cooking skills.
 Learn the art of compromise. Marriage will be about give and take. While you are single, learn that you don’t always have to be right and accept that most things will not always happen your way. Be willing to sacrifice what you want for the benefit and happiness of others. Wives have to compromise many things. The earlier we learn to compromise, the better off we will be in marriage.
 Be committed to pursuing your dreams and supporting others. It is important to have your own goals and motivations prior to becoming one with your future husbands. Learn how to support family and friends in their endeavors as well. When you become a wife, you will have to support your husband’s dreams, possibly at the expense of yours.
 Know what submission is and be ready to walk in it. Many people shy away from this discussion. Submission is not equivalent to obedience. Submission is yielding in love. Study God’s design for marriage and understand the role of a wife. In your singleness, God is your husband, submit yourself to Him. Trust His plan and timing for your life, seek His guidance in all that you do, practice submission now.
Be holy and feminine in your conduct. Always carry yourself as a classy woman who walks with confidence. Men want a woman they are proud to take home to their families. They want a woman with high self-esteem, who practices purity, one who walks gracefully, respects herself and others around her.
Marriage is a sacred bond between God, man and woman.
SAY THE PRAYER AND  REMAIN BLESSED.







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